He's no good for you!

assalamu 3alikom...

There are some essintial things that u need to find in ur life partner, they may not be that big, yet they are critical and lacking them will make u live the worst life ever!
answering any of the following with a no, makes me tell u to reconsider:


1) Does he care?

and when i say "care" i mean cares for u, not for him... does he do the things that make u happy not only the things that make him happy??, does he "seek" ur happiness?, does he remember ur issues and cares to ask about them?, or does he only talk about things that are common interest, and when u start talking u find that the topic is closed in a way or another!!
i know some ppl who care only for themselves and seem to be caring for others, they have long talks with u, u may think that they like talking to u, but actually they like "talking"!.. with a "u" in the phrase or no "u", both are equal.
they listen to u, which seems as care, but they listen not bcz they want to listen to u, but bcz they like to know what ppl think, whether ppl are replaced in the phrase with u or any others, it's the same too!
and let me tell u this: care is the simplest form of love, no care no love... u may marry sm1 who doesnt "love" u, but u cant marry sm1 who doesnt atleast "care" about u!

2) Does he feel u?

can he see ur inner feelings, knows from ur face or eyes that u are happy now or not, need him or not, need to hear smth from him??.. does he feel ur wordless reactions? knows when u r happy, sad, irritated, satisfied or not??.. or does he just go on talking if he likes it and never notices how u deeply feel
bcz sometime, and girls do this a lot, u may be deeply hurted inside, sad or having a deep sorrow, and whether u know it or not, u need some passion.. but u keep smiling infront of others, caring, giving, pretending as there is nthn... i believe if cant read this, then smth is wrong!

3) Does he understand?

understand how u think, y u did that or doing this?, if u r trying to say smth in an indirect way, does he get it?

when u say, for example, that the "sea" is blue, deas he understand that the sea is "blue"??... i mean is he on the same line u r on?!

this also includes understanding ur needs and giving u space, making u feel that u are u, not just sm1 who only serves him and have to obey him all the time and that's it!.. well, i believe that girls must "obey"their husbands, but some men use this and take it as a granted right and see them selves as the masters and u r there only to obey, but "u" as u! no u dont exist... and they forget that when they command they need to be loving, tender, and soft and appreciate ur abilites and emotions

4) Does he remember?

this is a Big indicator, u may for example tell him that u have been to alex, like the blue color, or love indian food, any thing, and u come and talk to him about any of the issues, then he doesnt know! u tell him i told u b4 that: "....", ...... and he says : "really!!! i dont remember!"

well, i believe that if he cares he will remember, espcally the well known things about u, the things that distingush u frm others, or the things that are main events in ur life... not remembering such things isa big indicator of not caring.. and ppl who love, believe me, remember every single little details about those they love

Finally, never marry a "3'abi" person, and saying 3'abi i dont mean that he is not smart or smth, but there are some actions and reacttions and attitudes are are not described except with the word "3'abaa2".. cz this man eventually will drive u crazy.. trust me!

There may be a lot more quetions to ask ur self, but those what i have in mind now, yet i think they are major and critical but not many ppl take them into consideration!

see u soon isAllaah :)

salaaaam