Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

assalamu 3alikom,

yesterday in the seven habits course that i take, the lecturer was talking about the fifth habit, "Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood". and he said a fact that really made me amazed.

A person's emotional need to be understood is equal to his physical need to BREATHE !!!!!......

i DIDN'T know that !!, when he was saying that sentence i thought he'll say "..... their need to eat !!!".. but Air !!!!, wow, that's Huge!!


Being understood is an ESSENTIAL need!, that's y sm ppl just keep talking and talking, they just want to feel understood...but wat happens that ppl dont listen to each other, every one interrupts the other, and the problem occurs.

understanding that being understood is an essential need for human beings makes u think "who will satisfy ur need". now u wont be talking to any one w 5alas, u'll be seeking ppl who will really understand.

also being aware of that fact, makes u listen and listen and not interrupt ppl, cz they need it as much as they need the air they breathe.

Don't forget to pick those u will listen to, cz u cant just listen to every and any one...also pick those who will listen to u, not every body deserves to understand u :)

yalla,
salaaam