إن ربي لسميع الدعاء

assalamu 3alikom,

At work, it was planned that we travel to Qatar to deliver the project we are working on, the travel date was set on 20/1/09, and had been changed to 22/1/09 :), which is tom :)

of course al7amdulillaah i was praying isti5ara about traveling to Qatar, and after that i have been told that i'm chosen to travel.. so al7amdulillaah :)

One day, i went to visit my aunt, where i met her husband -he works also as a da3eya- and i told him that i'm leaving to Qatar soon isAllaah..

Then came his Q: "Who is the "me7rem" who is travelling with u??".. i said: "none, but i'm travelling with refqa ma2moona- el shar3 says: me7rem OR refqa ma2moona".. he said:"Honey, refqa ma2moona if u were 45 years old or smth, now with ur age, u travel only with a me7rem, if u were my daughter, i wont let u travel"...

Well, i didnt know what to say, i was totally convinced that it's not 7araam as we have "refqa ma2moona", and i said to myself: anyways, i'm praying isti5araa, and Allaah will do what's good :)..

Few days later, a friend confirmed the information that "refqa ma2moona" condition applies only if we were 45 years old or more!, and she said: tab3aan 7araaam.. i was :S :S.. Again i thought: i'm praying isti5ara, Allaah will do what is good :)

Then for a second i thought: Wait a min!!!, it's 7araaam, i'm making isti5ara on ma3seyaa!!!!!!!, how stupid!!! i have to refuse travelling with no question!!!

Well, it was too late to refuse, i felt really bad… I may do smth 7araam Only in case I Dont know it's 7araaam.. But doing it intentionally knowing it's 7araam!!, this is not me!!!

What shall i do now!!, i just cant go to my manager and say: Good morning, I’m not traveling cz it's 7araam.. ya salaaaaaaaaam, ommaal wafe2t leeh mn el awwel!!!!!!

i prayed to Allaah and said: ya rabby plz, u know how i really wanted to go, and u know i dont want to do anything 7araam, ya rabby i'm not sure if this is refqa ma2moona or not.. please dont let me choose.. ya rabby, if u are not rady about this trip, plz ya raaby prevent it by anyhow, dont let me choose, i'll be satisfied with whatever u choose for me, just dont let me do smth 7araam, plzzz...

Then, tan tan taaaaaaaaaan, we had a meeting, the manager said: "Let me tell u the latest updates. Every thing is booked, ur tickets and hotel, and money is ready.. yet there is only one thing, Qatar rejected ur visas.. cz Qatar does not accept any visa applications for "Egyptian" or "Philippines" "Females" , only males!!!!!!"...

I felt like : WOOOOWWW :D :D :D, shokraaan ya rabbenaaa awiiiiiiiiiii... al7amdulillaaaaaaah, i didnt have to choose :D.. actually we all believe that there are problems between Qatar and Egypt bcz not allowing the Qatari aids for Gaza, and not attending the Summit in Qatar... But peace :D :D, Hosni Mubarak didnt go to Qatar so that i dont do smth 7araaam :D.. Allaaah really "7allaha" on his own way, on a veryyyy large scale :) :) :) ...al7amduillaaaaah :) :)

Now, a TL of mine has to travel to UK, alone too, i just said: Al7amdulillaahi allathy 3aafana memma ibtala bihi katheeran mn 5alqih :).. it's a bless that Allaah keeps sins away from u :) al7amdulillaaaaah :)

Thanks ya Allaaaah, indeed: enna rabbyy la-samee3-ul Du3aa2 :)

al7amdulillaaah :)

Mai Sbelleng Mestakez :D

assalamu 3alikom,

From time to time i read my old posts, and every time i find horrible spelling mistakes in each post :S .. i find my self writing "thing" instead of "think", "I" instead of "It", "u" instead of "we" or sometimes "y", "how" instead of "who" and vise versa :D, and many many others :D

Well, the first thing that comes to my mind when discovering those mistakes is not how didn't i notice them, but, how could the readers - U- understand what i meant :D

I thank Allaaah that u get me at the end :D, and i Dont promise to improve :D

Thanks for ur patience :D, and i hope that this post is "mistakes free" :D

Salaaam

Killer Whales :)

assalamu 3alikom,

Few days ago i watched a video about killer whales, i really wonder y they call them "Killer", i see they are very cute and adorable, i just love them :)

The whale i was watching was so sweet and lovely.. Looks pretty, and friendly, i felt like: yaaaaaaah, ana nefsy fe whale! :).. i fell in love with them :) :)

I then said: ya rabby, 2orzo2ny 7oot 2ammoor :).. My younger brother said: !!!! enty 3arfa el 7oot da 2add a!!!, hat7otteeh feeen???!!!!!

Then i said: ya rabb 2erzo2ny 7ooot 2ammoor w berkaa :)

He said: !!!!!!! el berka mesh kefayaa 3ala el 7oot??!! el 7oot 3ayez mo7eeet!!

So i said: ya raaab 2erzo2ny 7ooot w mo7eeet :)

He said: !!!! enty 3ayza rabbena yorzo2ik mo7eet ezzaay!!!!!

I said: maho rabbena y2dar... mesh howwa qader! :)

Then he said: !!! enty 3arfa el 7ooot byakoll kam kilo samak fel yoom!!!! enty hat2akkeleeh meneen!!!!!!!

Then my sister said: ma el mo7eeet haykoon feeh samaak keteeer.. malaksh da3wa enta bass :D

Howwa it's impossible to possess an ocean, i Know, and I know that whales are not cats :) i know :)

But i just like asking Allaaah with the smile in the face :), knowing that instead, he sub7anahu wata3alaa will give me an ocean with whales fel gannaa, or build me a palace fel gannaa, or remove a harm that was going to happen to me fel donia :)

It's also wonderful to imagine that i have my own whale :) :)

Wish u whales :) killer ones, cz they are lovely :)

Salaaaam 

Peace of Mind..

assalamu 3alikom,

Peace of mind, or raa7et el baal, is a very important factor of any achievement or success or even satisfaction in our lives.

No matter how talented u are, gifted or blessed, u wont feel it, enjoy t, of achieve any satisfying outcomes if u dont have peace of mind.

Peace of mind is defined as: the freedom from fear, freedom from anger and freedom from guilt.. (by Brain Tracy)

If u can remember any state of happiness, u'll recall that u were free of those three negative feelings, that's y u enjoyed that moment and it was a happy moment for u.

Peace of mind is very dear and it worth that u keep it..

Fear can be for the simplest reason, but it has a big negative impact on how u perform things and progress, with fear u dont feel that u are u, u feel paralyzed and can't take most of ur decisions.

Anger, is destructive feeling, makes u see other's mistakes or misunderstanding as unforgivable mistakes, u over react, u loose ur patience, forgiveness, love and many others, u just convert to not only a different person, but a different creature.

Sometimes anger takes a different form, when it's buried inside u against all the surroundings: the government, the ppl, ur family, ur job.. u are just angry from every thing! Definitely in this stage u are not experiencing peace of mind!

Guilt may kill, ask me about it!!, it's when u are seeing that u have made a disaster and u are really hopeless, czu cannot do anything about it, u can not make the situation better. It's when u cannot forgive ur self and keep punishing it! 

U'll notice that in Islaam, Allaah sub7anahu wata3alaa wanted us to have that peace of mind in every aspect in our lives. Allaah sub7anahu wata3alaa, if not in Qur2aan then by sayyedna Muhammad's sunnaa, guided us to behave or believe in certain ways to achieve peace of mind

- Allaah freed us form fear, by telling us to have yaqeen, and to know that every thing is in Allaah's sub7anahu wata3alaa's hands, our future and rizq and every thing that we may worry about is qadar, and u trust Allaah sub7anahu wata3alaa in every thing that happens in our lives, and we know that any thing we get or loose is bcz it was or wasnt our rizq, and we leave the future to Allaah making the present and the ijtihaad in what in hands, our only concern .

-Allaah freed us from Anger, by commanding us to hold it when ever we feel it, telling us the br8 thawaab of "Kathm Al 3'ayth", and sending sayyedna Muhammad to tell us that we are stronger when we hold our anger not by acting angrily, and telling us that anger is from Shitaan, and we need to relax and thing b4 reacting, have "Wodoo2" and/or change our physical position.

-Allaah freed us from Guilt by giving us hope, and telling us that although we may not forgive our selves, yet Allaah forgives every thing, and there is always hope in his mercy, that no matter how big were our mistakes, Allaah is bigger, and his mercy always comes b4 his punishment sub7anahu wata3alaa. Not only by hope we over come our feeling of guild, yet by action to do to be in the state of "Tasalo7 ma3 el nafs", doing things as "Tawba", to let u know deeeeep inside ur self, that as long as u did that deeds that Allaah said they are "Kaffara", then for sure he forgives u.. and that all the "Kaffara" deeds, or actions intended for "Tawba" praying, fasting or giving money- are a great bless from Allaah sub7anahu wata3alaa to let us come over what ever we have done wrong, free our selves from the guilt and keep on our lives. 

So whenever u are feeling bad, remember the three feeling, ask ur self, then run to Allaaah, open the "Qur2aan" and read some verses, do any action with the tawba intention, and remember that Allaah "commanded" us with the peace of mind.

Wish u all the peace of minds..

Meet u in ur Du3aa2...

Assalamu 3alikom

The Way to Jannah

assalamu 3alikom,

I always used to think about how to be a good muslim and be mn "ahl al Jannaah"..

When reading Qur2aan, u'll notice that the greatest thawaab and Jannaah are garunteed for "Al mottaqeen"..

 
للذين اتقوا عند ربهم جنات تجري من تحتها الانهار خالدين فيها وازواج مطهرة ورضوان من الله والله بصير بالعباد
ان الله يحب المتقين
وسارعوا الى مغفرة من ربكم وجنة عرضها السماوات والارض اعدت للمتقين
 للذين احسنوا منهم واتقوا اجر عظيم
لكن الذين اتقوا ربهم لهم جنات تجري من تحتها الانهار خالدين فيها نزلا من عند الله وما عند الله خير للابرار
فمن اتقى واصلح فلا خوف عليهم ولا هم يحزنون
واعلموا ان الله مع المتقين
مثل الجنة التي وعد المتقون تجري من تحتها الانهار اكلها دائم وظلها تلك عقبى الذين اتقوا
تلك الجنة التي نورث من عبادنا من كان تقيا
وينجي الله الذين اتقوا بمفازتهم لا يمسهم السوء ولا هم يحزنون
ان المتقين في جنات وعيون
ان المتقين في جنات ونعيم
ومن يتق الله يجعل له مخرجا
ومن يتق الله يجعل له من امره يسرا
ومن يتق الله يكفر عنه سيئاته ويعظم له اجرا
ان للمتقين عند ربهم جنات النعيم

And many other verses..

Well, i always wondered what is taqwaa, or let me say, how is taqwaa.. I know taqwa is a very high level in islaaam, but how can i bee mn el mottaqeen ??

My humble definition for taqwa, and a very simple one, is to always watch ur intentions b4, while and after doing smth, and make sure that ur intention is for Allaah's sake, not for ur nafs nor reyaa2 nor for ppl... i know this is not percise, and there is a greater meaning of course..

Well, i decided to notice how to reach the "Taqwa" level from the Qur2aan it self, and here what i discovered:

The "Taqwa" level is reached after u pass by the following levels:

1) Al Hidayaa

2) Al-Emaaan

3) Al Taqwa

You may see it simple, but let me tell u this:

- Al hidayaa is a bless from Allaah, look around u, how many ppl are blessed with al hidaya!!.. really few!.. i believe that a lot of the ppl known as "Moltazemeen" are not even mohtadeen.. of course we dont judge ppl, but i'm saying that "Hidaya" is when u feel Allaah and islaam, and there are some ppl who only "perform" 3ebadaat, and "look" muslims.. i think u know what i mean!

- Al Emaan is a very hard phase to be stable at, most of "al mohatadeen" go up and down in the "Imaan" scale, as we all know, yazeed bel ta3aat wa yanqos bel ma3aasy.. and it needs a lot of gehaad nafs and  a lot of patience!

Back talking about the "Qur2an", I can explain this hierarchy but from up to down, starting with Taqwa, then Eman, then Hidayaa, and this will be in next posts isAllaah

But there are things that i want to point out here:

- When Taqwa is mixed with Sabr, it's then "I7saan": إنه من يتق و يصبر فإن الله لا يضيع أجر المحسنين

- When Taqwa is mixed with "Sidq", it's called "Birr": ولكن البر من امن بالله واليوم الاخر والملائكة والكتاب والنبيين واتى المال على حبه ذوي القربى واليتامى والمساكين وابن السبيل والسائلين وفي الرقاب واقام الصلاة واتى الزكاة والموفون بعهدهم اذا عاهدوا والصابرين في الباساء والضراء وحين الباس اولئك الذين صدقوا واولئك هم المتقون

TBC :)

Salaaaam

On my way to work..

Assalamu 3alikom,

My dear friend Nosayba once told me that she was very overloaded, one day she s on her way to clg she said : "ya rabb ogbor b-5atry", and in that day a dear friend of hers showed up with a beautiful present and gave it to her for no reason except that she loves her :)...

 So, Today on my way to work i remembered Nosayba's words, and really wanted enn rabbena yfarra7ny in his own way -su7anahu wata3alaa-, so i asked Allaah sub7anah and said: "ya rabb ogbor b5atry ennaharda w farra7ny", and of course by the time i reached the office i forgot about it :)

 I was also fasting today al7amdulillaah.. But tab3an u know el Shaitaan, i kept thinking: ana 3andy sodaa3, aftaar ba2a" then i say no akammel.. then i thought: i still have a lot of work to do, i will not concentrate if i didnt eat, lessa 4 hrs 3ala el adaan.. then i thought: 4 hrs are not much, i can hold on, I'm fasting for Allaah's sake, right?!... Anyways, i suddenly found that it was 4:35 or smth, and said al7amdulillaaah that the time passed just like that...

 El mohem, back to the story... at about 4:55, a girl passed by my desk and said: "Noha!, teshraby mayyet zamzam??", i thought she was kidding bsara7a, i said: "a da!! bgd!!" she said : "yes, a girl in my team came back from Hajj and she has mayyet zamzam and tamr mn el madeenaa!".. i was like: Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah... OH MY GOD.. Sooooooo Happy al7amdullilaaaaaaaaah bgd bgd al7amdulillaaaaah..

 I took mayyet zamzam and sat down b4 the azaan, and kept praying :), and i thought for a second: yaaaaah, rabbena 5allaaany asoom, w 5allaany aftaar 3ala "mayyet zamzam" w tamr mn el  "madeeena".. du3aa2y kan sa3etha mostagaaab yaaaaaaaa raaaab isAllaaah.. sayma w bashrab zamzam -ma2u zamzam lima shuriba lah-.. WOW!! 

I prayed and prayed, and thanked Allaaah for letting me have this wonderful chance, and for reminding me to pray at that moment too, cz i could have simply just drink without remembering to pray!.. al7amdulillaaaaaaah :), i felt that rabbena made this girl go to 7ajj for me :) .. al7amdulillaaaah

Shokraan ya Rabbenaa... Rabbena indeed gabar b5atryyy :) :)

Thanks Nosyba :) (F)

The Ladder Theory..

assalamu 3alikom,

One of the theories i learnt by my dad's friend was "The Ladder Theory”..

 Actually he said it to my aunt when dad was in the hospital, as she was very worried about dad, life, how things will go, what will happen next and what will happen if..... and stuff like that.

 3ammo fawzy once told her: "Matsheleesh el sellem bel3ard ya 7agga", she was like "!! What sellem".. he said:"Imagine that we all are walking in a crowded street and each of us is carrying a ladder, Imagine how will u  suffer lw kont shayel el sellem bel 3ard.. ur movment progress will be almost zero, and in addition to the pain u have due to the ladder weight it self, u'll be suffering from every body hitting against ur ladder".. He also said: "ppl who carry their ladder vertically -bel toool- are much more happy, and much less suffering and walk much faster although they are carrying the same weight!"...

 The ladder is the problems u have in life, troubles or hard situation.. The way u carry the ladder is how u deal with the situation and how u feel about it... the crowd in the street is the daily life u life.. u whether feel fine about it -lw shayel el sellem bel toool- or feeling really bad about every thing that happens -lw shayl el sellem bel 3ard- ... also notice how ppl progress with different speed according to how they carry the ladder.

 Well, i believe this is true, Very true, it's all about how we are carrying our ladders, I also found the following.. Now me not 3ammo fawzy :D :D

ppl who carry el sellem bel 3ard feel ba, then they decide to change, to feel good, they want to change the ladder position not to hit against every body, so what do most ppl do!!, instead carrying the ladder vertically, they walk bel 3ard, they rotate themselves and they feel that: "WOW, we are not hitting anymore!", but the truth is: they changed!, mashyeen b-ganbihom badal maymsho do3'ry...

walking do3'ry represents keeping u values, principles and keeping Allaah in front of u and watching ur intention... some ppl once facing any hard situation -in order not to feel bad or guilty- simply through their values away, forget about having a good intention, forget that Allaah is watching, and start walking bel gamb!

All i wanted to say that, when u are carrying a ladder, make sure that u are not carrying it bel 3ard.. if u are not, just make sure that the "Ladder's" position is changed not urs!... After all, we all have ladders to carry :)

yalla Salaaam :)